Wednesday, December 22, 2004

I hate all holidays

and you cant help but ask why

my son just asked why but had no interest in listening to the answer, just as well, I dont see any benefit in him hearing that.

but you might.

every holiday there is, is greatly defigned by how much the bread winner in a family is able to earn and therefore pay for the quality of said holiday, none so great as christmas. each is a painful reminder that you are not wealthy and worse yet there is always the rediculous supposition that you are simple being a sourpuss that money really doesnt matter, as each member of your family has a sad longing in their eyes for something that you surely should be able to provide for them that you surely cannot.

this year grandmas saved the day, one of our three kids will get nearly everything on his list, not because I manage to make a rediculous amount of money but because 2 people who no longer have to support a family found it in their hearts to send us money in time to make christmas happen. I am grateful beyond words. Yet, in this culture a 'real man' would have found some magical way to play the game and make his life all about work while simultaniously being there for his family at just the right time, striking this wonderful balance that doesnt exist for any guy who ever lived. My dad bought me ski lessons for christmas when I was 10, sent me to japan when I was 16, died when I was 21. I was just thinking today how hard it is to even remember him already. I cant afford to take my sons skiing, cant imagine sending them to japan, I'm here with them but somehow without the things that cost money it doesnt seem to be enough. so its not possible to be a good dad, how nice. I love them so much and yet I am faced with such horrible choices, horrible choices really, do I give them the leg up that they need to make it in the world or do I give them a dad that is really there for them? so I do my best which winds up being very little of either, I'm here but I am not here, I have a good job that pays well but I live in an area - where the job is - that leaves me with nothing left to give them even monitarily. and we are very stuck in that reality.

how far we have come.

dont we deserve more from life than this? I mean, at least if thats what we want and what we work for? cant I at least be a good father and husband? or is that too much to ask?

I remember my dad telling me that he really hated being an engineer, really hated it, for 25 fucking years! and nobody cared, I would have cared, if I had known but it wasnt ok for him to complain back then, once I was grown he felt safe confiding in me, not my mom, sisters or his friends, just me, another man, facing the same darkness, I felt horrible, all those trips to hawaii, japan, the skiing, I would give anything for him to have just been happy all those years. he finally took time for himself and went after what he really wanted to do with his life, was only a thesis away from a phd and already had a high paying consulting gig in his new field, he was gainfully employed at that for about 2 weeks before he got sick, living with a friend, broke, after a lifetime of success and money and pride. he died broke and unfullfilled.

he was 51, I am only 34 now but I feel like I am way ahead of him, killing myself for nothing.

but what else could I possibly do? nothing else is really acceptable and I am ok with that, I just wish someone understood, I wish my dad was still alive, he would understand and that would be enough.


Friday, December 17, 2004

100 things about me

1. I love little electronic gadgets.

2. Filamento is my favorite store but they are gone now, they used to be on Fillmore in San Francisco.

3. I drink an average of 3 glasses of wine every night, but only since 1994 shortly after I got a 'real' job.

4. I love the color of my wifes eyes.

5. If I could choose a state to live in it would most likely be California

6. If I could I would stay up until 2 and wake up at 10.

7. With rare exception I have always done my own laundry since I was 7.

8. I gave up caffeine, but not coffee (went to decaf) in March of 2003.

9. There is about 46 cubic yards of stuff I dont ever use in my house.

10. I haven't known my neighboors since I was 14.

11. I've started to write 2 books, I have only read about 30 in my life.

12. I know that if I am to 'be' I cant grow up.

13. I have very few friends, they are all strange in some way.

14. I would never want to be 15 again.

15. I hate wall to wall carpet, I love hardwood floors with oriental rugs.

16. For most of my life it has taken me 2 hours to fall asleep, with the help of wine, 45min.

17. I have one cousin who doesnt believe in god, however, he and everyone I am related to in this country is a babtised mormon, except me.

18. I grew up at a ski resort in Alaska, taught skiing and was an avid extreme skier until I was too heavy to do it properly.

19. I love Trivial Pursuit but nobody plays it anymore.

20. I like biografical books more than any others.

21. I think that it is possible that reincarnation is real.

22. 22 is the day I was born and throughout my life I have seen that number in odd places like dumptrucks far more than other numbers. I have always thought it was

an omen

23. I wish I had known my wife from birth.

24. I am not aware of computers in the same way you are not aware of a window while looking at a mountain through it.

25. My cat is named after a character in Mrs. Mungers Class, the cat is dopic the character only said 'what?'

26. I hate eating chinese food with anything other than chopsticks.

27. I dont like dogs.

28. I wish I could go to mars before I die.

29. My favorite color is a very dark deep blue that is almost purple.

30. One of my favorite places is a giant rock the size of a house in a quiet neighborhood in Berkeley.

31. My favorite actor used to be Judd Nelson, but is no longer, not sure who is now.

32. I learned Transendental Meditation when I was 12.

33. I love almonds and macadamias.

34. I thought of myself as a republican when I was a kid but wouldnt have voted for Reagan and have always voted anti-republican but not always democrat, I am anti-

partisan.

35. I have only dated one person that had both of her parents and I have never dated a non-smoker, yet I dont smoke.

36. I type about 70wpm.

37. It annoys me when people use 'then' when they should use 'than', yet I cant spell to save myself, unless its verbally and for someone else.

38. My favorite TV show is The West Wing. I used to love cheers then seinfeld then friends but have no interest in re-runs.

39. I wanted to grow up to be like buckaroo bonzai.

40. I often lay awake at night and think about code.

41. The best birthday present I ever got was a pile of dirt for my 4th birthday, I later found out it wasnt intended for me but when I was overjoyed at the gift my dad let

me play with it, making tunnels and such until I was tired of it, when he proceded with his origenal plans.

42. The answer to life, the universe and everything.

43. My favorite cookies are chocolate chunk cookies.

44. I rarely have a number long enough to know it.

45. My favorite wine is Francis Ford Copplolas Rubicon, I have only tasted it once.

46. I hate minivans.

47. I used to have a new set of dishes from macys.

48. I hate holidays, the rare exception is when I am able to get a perfect gift for someone that they would not have asked for or known about, if I could always do that I

would love most holidays, the last time I did that was when I got my sister a dark rust-metal mouse about 10 years ago.

49. My wife and I own 4 domain names that are very rarely used and mostly only by us.

50. I have three email addresses that I actually use.

51. I like home automation technologies, I wish I could build some myself, my cousin has, the one that doesnt believe in god.

52. I hate Nascar and anything related to Nascar such as flags, lawn ornaments, commercials, the race themselves. I like formula 1,2 and european rally racing.

53. I think Picabo Street is awesome, Bill Johnson sucks, Tommy Moe trained in the town I grew up in, he was very good but full of himself. I wish I knew how to golf.

54. I love bailys haggen daz

55. I was a: frame assembler, babysitter, paperboy, roadside trash collector(3), dishwasher(2), ski instructor, video store clerk, Ice cream shop clerk, data entry/office

assistant, bell boy, hotel desk clerk(2), healthfood cafe clerk, cannery worker, carpenter, school van driver, groundskeeper, fireman, waiter, and warehouse worker/

forklift operator all before I turned 21.

56. If I go to a fast food place it's Taco Bell and I order the 1 Burrito Supreme, 1 Taco Supreme meal.

57. My favorite resaurant is still the Double Musky in Girdwood, AK.

58. I think religion is wierd, I think it is the source of all predjudice and hate.

59. The most I've ever won on a lottery ticket is $100 on a scratcher.

60. The last movie I rented was Collateral which I thought was so so.

61. Movies I could watch over and over again include: Airplane (40+ times so far), the Breakfast Club, High Fidelity, As Good as It gets, the Holy Grail, Pulp Fiction.

62. Movies that should be removed from existence: Star Trek the wrath of Kaan, fatasy island dude with a white wig is just laim.

63. I have a few pieces of the original great wall of china, most of what you see today was built in the 20s for tourists.

64. I love the works of Michael Parks, George Serat, Yamagata, Houng, and Scott Melear Clark. I have known the last 2 personally, they inspired me to paint, which I

love but am not good at.

65. I never had school lunch or a lunchbox as a kid, I had a paper bag, usually with penut butter and honey sandwich, and an apple, never chips or cookies or any food

with a label, It was meant to be healthy, I always thought we were too poor for me to eat school lunch, turns out apples werent cheap in Kodiak Alaska and school

lunches were.

66. Best books: Desert Notes; Barry Holston Lopez, 2 years in the melting pot; Liu Zongren, Illusions; Richard Bach, Do It!; Jerry Rubin, Ishmael; Daniel Quinn, Way of

the Peaceful warrior; Dan Millman, Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance, The Art of War; Tsun Tzu, Nicomacean Ethics; Aristotle, Echiridon; Epictetus, the

Fountainhead; Ayn Rand, Everything and a Kite; Ray Romano.

67. I never finish slow books.

68. Favorite beer Thomas Kemper Integralle - no longer made, I also like Sapporo but I hate Kirin. Best truth cerum beer: Chemmay

69. I've never gone to the doctor for a broken bone but I have broken my nose, dislocated my knee and shoulder, cracked a rib, however as a child I went to the ER for

stitches or blood poisening a total of 5 times before I went to kindergarten.

70. I've had 3 speeding tickets and one dismissed ticket for running a red light. I have one unpaid parking ticket that I got when I was at the courthouse getting my red

light ticket dismissed, It has been 15 years, I have never paid it.

71. I do not have a dream car, however, I know I would love driving a '92 porche 911 C4, I would also love an Astin Martin Vanquish.

72. My favorite sport is skiing, I love people watching, mostly for the stories I make up about them and their lives.

73. I hate baseball with a passion, I dislike most team sports and I enjoy bowling about once every 10 years.

74. I know all the words to the song "Loser" by Beck

75. I once Snow skied and water skied on the same weekend in june, each about 2.5 hours from where I lived, both at lakes; tahoe and sonoma

76. I prefer a large real tree for Christmas, preferably one I cut myself in a national park, aritficial trees seem like the nail in the coffin of christmas spirit.

77. I only had 3 wisdom teeth, they were pulled when I was 19, in place of the 4th my 12 year molar grew a 5th crown that was ground off by my orthodontist with a

dremel looking sander tool, no novacain.

78. I love the large size of my new cell phone, the first in years I can dial with one hand, I hate the plan and coverage.

79. I'm convinced that my wife will never believe how much I love her.

80. The first girl I ever kissed was a native alaskan girl, I dont know her name, we were both in mr. santoros 1st grade class, I got in trouble, they called my parents

who were mad to my face when I got home but as I left the room I caught my dad doing a 'victory fist' showing that he was proud that his son was already jiggy with the

ladies, I didnt kiss a girl again until I was 16.

81. My desk has a picture of my family and a bamboo tree on it.

82. I have been visiting Glassdog.com since the summer of 1996, it used to be a cutting edge web design tutorial that changed frequently, recently it became a blog

which I follow daily.

83. I bought an Olympus OMpc for $275 in 1987, I still have it but it has not worked properly since 1990, I wish I could convert it somehow to take digital, it is a perfect

camera.

84. Outside of salons, my sister has cut my hair more times than anyone, my wife is the only other person to have cut my hair.

85. At one time, recently, we had 3 teenagers and a baby in our house, I calculated that we spent more money on milk than gas.

86. If I had could raid a clothing store it would probably be Nordstrom, I have had a card from there since 1990 but havent had an available balance in 4 years.

87. I have a serious addiction to buying scratchers, I hate gambling but I keep thinking that one day I will bring joy to my family for years to come.

88. I am 34 years old.

89. I think ice-hocky is yet another boring team sport.

90. I'm the youngest of three siblings 2 sisters 40 and 42

91. I have a pair of timberland boots I bought 12 years ago for $175 they have needed new soles for years.

92. I make the worlds best burritoes but havent made my best for many years, when I did my mother said they were better than hers, a high honor.

93. I desperately want enough money to buy my wife a three stone diamond wedding ring, a tiffany keychain, a real house, a touareg and a field of daisys.

94. My least favorite chore is ironing, next is folding but I dont mind washing.

95. My favorite tool is my worm drive circular saw, my ex-brother in law gave it to me, it has accidentally cut a 3 inch wood screw perfectly in half, the long way.

96. I really, really wish every light switch in my house was controlled by a computer that I could program.

97. I love everything I need in a house to be on one floor but I dont like single story houses.

98. I have had cats named; Martini, Sisco, Skoshi, Zoe, Hercules, Zena, Mahoot, and Bobo.

99. I once assembled a bookcase for a retired Lockeed engineer who worked on developing ICBMs but could not understand the directions to assemble said bookcase.

100. My favorite smell is my wifes neck.

Tuesday, December 14, 2004

Where do I file a PTC complaint?

email I sent to http://www.parentstv.org/
you can to!

Editor@parentstv.org

This is the group that has been bombarding the FCC begging them to take away our rights.


I am a parent of three, 22months, 13 and 15. I am an adult, I have an opposable thumb and a brain and I am not afraid to use either, I don't let my kids watch southpark, its really not that hard to be a good parent without the aid of the FCC trampling on our rights. I am not religious, therefore as an adult I can find nasty stuff on comedy central quite entertaining and would never be offended and when my kids are old enough to know better than to mimic rude behavior they see on TV I will watch it with them without getting my knickers in a twist.

Your group is part of a groundswell of conservatives that are attacking every key element of the freedoms that built this great nation. Its probably already too late for you, the extreme measures you have gone to to shove your moral agenda down our collective throats are already causing massive backlash, you know you have stepped over the line when an average clean cut joe like me wants to push back, its not like its the hells angels that want lingerie biker chics on prime time, its average free Americans that you are stepping on. When you go too far you leave us no choice but to do the same, now instead of compromising and taking it easy on the religious folks in the neighborhood, we have to make sure that somebody keeps some good smut and nasty talk going 24/7 on TV and Radio just so that we can tune in from time to time and make sure this is still America. My youngest watches Noggin, if I catch something obnoxious on that station when I have come to expect good programming for small children I am going to raise hell, not with the FCC but with Noggin, I am their customer, I dont need them fined, what greater fine is there than to lose their customers?

Just my 2 cents, wish you folks would back off.

Thanks,

letter to the FCC

"My vote for best media/television story of the year goes to one you may have missed. Mediaweek reported on Dec. 6 that of all the "indecency complaints" to the Federal Communications Commission in 2003, a startling 99.8 percent of them came from one conservative group, the Parents Television Council."
from smirkingchimp

http://www.smirkingchimp.com/article.php?sid=19081&mode=nested&order=0



so I sent this to the head of the FCC:

"I'm a relatively upstanding citizen. I have three kids. They only
watch what I let them.

-- "I know how to use my TV remote. I know how to turn my television off.

-- "On my television, I like violence. I like nudity. I like guns
going off. I like people having sex. I like swearing. I like shows
with gay people in them. I like shows where gay people have sex. I
like shows where gay people shoot guns. And swear. I like stuff that
blows up.

-- "I also like 'Little Bear.' And shows about architecture and
design. And C-SPAN. If that helps.

-- "I hope this e-mail offsets another from the Parents Television
Council. I hope you get a lot more just like this. Because I want the
PTC out of my living room. I've got a sneaking suspicion they're going
to end up in my bedroom.

"Yours sincerely."

this was written by Tim Goodman of the sfcronicle but I am happy to
use his words as my own. I never watch football, ever, but for some
reason I turned on the halftime show this year, just to see what they
would come up with this time, it sucked, it was boring and trite, my
kids saw 1.2 seconds of Janets boob, it happens, when there is nudity
in movies they look away, they are a bit young to get so much
information but they are also a bit too human to have all of reality
hidden from them. No harm came to my children or myself and anyone
who feels otherwise should really become Amish, I would have no
problem with that but fining the network over that was horrifically
embarrassing and harmful. to my kids. now they have no clue that this
is a free country full of open minded people who fight for everyone's
right to be human and be happy now they think they live in the former
soviet union.

shame on you all.

Thursday, December 09, 2004

Great blog on the Bushs, Iraq, rummy

http://ratfuckdiary.blogspot.com/2004/12/detailsdetails.html

"...How come no one ever mentions that when George Bush Sr. was head of the CIA, the US was so cozy with Saddam Hussein and the bin Laden family that Daddy WarBush hired Saddam Hussein as a CIA paid assassin. Another detail we hear precious little about is that the US armed Iraq to the teeth to protect our oil interests in Iraq. Those arms and weapons are now being used against us...."

Tuesday, December 07, 2004

Who was this jesus dude anyway?

excerpt from an email:

weird, never thought of him as a lunatic or a liar, I guess thats because I think the bible has a lot of lies written by bad men for the purpose of control, I believe that he must have existed as a simple soft spoken man who just wanted us to love each other, and I think the rest of it was words put in his mouth, but I dont know him, anymore than I know mother therasa, same goes for sidartha(budda) he was the son of a king, found out that there was pain and suffering, had a meltdown and came out of it with some wisdom, thats it, and yet even he was deified.
so yes, the jesus and the god in the bible to me sound like lunatics and/or liars but I dont beleive the bible is their book at all, I only have humans who are falable telling me that it is, that cant be enough, only people who feel the precence of god can feel otherwise, because without that they just have people telling them what to think.
so anyway, I dont believe that he even claimed to be the son of god. I have started to read the davinci code, found some really interesting stuff in there, it is totally a book of fiction but it threads in some real verifyable facts, like in the painting the last supper, there are two things I never would have noticed had they not been pointed out, there is a woman to Jesus' right and there is an extra hand that belongs to no one in the picture that is holding a knife. now those two things you can verify, but whats beyond that is conjecture, but interesting none the less, in the book it is proported that the woman is mary magdelin and that like Jesus, lies where made up about her too, she was not a prositute, she was his wife, had his child and was to carry on the cause after his death but the other followers didnt like that, so they banished her, made things up about her and went on to build the whole concept that women were subserviant to men, threading the bible with everything they could to keep women in their place. Later this lead to things like witch hunts, anything even being a doula, that a woman would do as a healer or herbalist etc... put power in the hands of women, so they were percecuted for it.
It is actually the notion of women being subserviant that was the first thing I had a problem with in church as a kid, it just seemed patently wrong from the first time I heard it.
anyway, thats all interpretation, well everything is when you talk about history, I think the story in monty pythons the life of brian is as plausable an explanation of jesus as any.
so what is left? we have all these writings, conjecture, thoughts, feelings etc... all we can do is sift out of them what makes sense and that is where I come back to 'we hold these truths to be self evident' there are truths spoken in the bible, by socrates by sidartha, by confusious but only those that are self evident, I like to expand on that, self evidence, if Jesus says (and I dont know that he does) that the world would be better for all of us if we just tried to love and forgive each other more, I dont car if that was divine inspiration, the words of a simple man or the writings of evil people years after his death, that part of what is said is a self evident truth and the value of it is that even though it is self evident not everyone would have thought of it quite like that had it not been said. Those morsels are what I defign as wisdom, things that immediatly ring true for the listener, whereas when some pagan says you will be exalted in the afterlife if you throw a goat into a volcano, I have to say, err, doesnt ring so much for me dude, guess I will have to pass on that there advice.
so you can see, I dont necessarily go against the christian god or jesus, I am really against the bible, so if there is a god, if jesus was his son and there is an afterlife, when I am judged I will say, never knew weither or not you guys were real, didnt believe in the bible but regardless I tried my best to be a good person and to be good to other people and to life on this planet in general and not to hedge my bets just in case you were real but because I judge myself more harshly than you ever could, your shame in me I can bear but my own I cannot, that means no disrespect it just means that I have high standards for myself and it sounds like less forgiveness than you. anyway, its entirely possible that the bible was partially inspired by god but over the years got corrupted by groups of men in power, parts of it sort of tilted to achieve their ends and in the end if there is a god, it could say, my words were corrupted some of you did your best to follow these words with the best intentions, interpreted them as best you could and tried to be good people, some of you didnt beleive them but still tried to be good people, some of you pretended to follow them and used them for evil and as an exuse to kill others and some of you where just bad people, those of you that were good regardless of your method are ready for the next level, those of you that werent, didnt get the message and need to try again.
so I should be more clear about my beliefs I guess, I dont know if there is a god or not but I dont believe in the bible for sure.

Thursday, December 02, 2004

Tell me all your thoughts on god

Excerpt from an email:

wow, well this is a tough one, yet an easy one. sounds like being good has nothing to do with going to heaven, its all about recognizing god. Haven't read the whole bible but I have read enough, even this excerpt is enough to remind me of what I have found before. Most people who are not Christians have more of a passive, the whole thing just doesn't work for me. With me its much more extreme. To me, good and evil are universal truths. The god speaking in the excerpt you sent does not represent good or evil to me, even if I knew that everything was completely true, that this god is before me that created me, the heavens, etc... if my only path to being with 'him' is to 'confess that Jesus Christ is lord' or in any other way bow to the authority of the creator, I'm simply not going to make it, my good deeds, the way I have chosen to act in this life with no fear of punishment or hope of reward from a god must be the standing element that leads me to where I go next, if that is insufficient to this god, then, I have no other way to put it, this god is insufficient for me. This is very hard to put mildly but the god described in the bible looks like a 50 foot tall spoiled teenager with a severe inferiority complex who needs his ego boosted by bowing followers. How can I justify being so blastfimous? true I didn't create the oceans or shape the earth or create myself, I didn't invent post-its either but one undeniable truth is that I didn't ask to be created and I have spent most of my life wishing I hadn't been, true there is beauty and love and sunsets but in the end there really can be no greater hell than life on earth as a human, I wouldn't trade gifts like My Son for anything but those gifts are few and far between and I don't have the ability to be grateful to a god that I am told exists only by other humans I can only be grateful to My Son, he gives me Joy and he will live in this world too and he didn't ask to be born either, he will make a sacrifice to bring that joy to me so it is he that I must be thankful too, not my parents, president, pope, or god.

To put it simply, the bible has to be wrong, in fact it needs to be way way off for me to accept god. I think this is entirely possible, if there is a god. This book was written by many men, many hundreds of years after the death of Christ, men who actually voted, democratically as to weather or not to call Jesus the son of god or just a man, son of god won out narrowly. now, they all say that these were not their words that everything is divine inspiration but I have to trust those men - not god - that what they say is true, how on earth can I do that?

In my humble opinion, if there is a god and this god is a good god, not an evil Lord, then the goodness of peoples actions, not their allegiance will be rewarded, fearing gods wrath and avoiding punishment by bowing to his power sounds identical to the work of the Mob, we are powerful and all knowing, if you pay us and do what we tell you, your family will be blessed with many good things, if not, we go to work on your kneecaps. That is what the god in the bible sounds like to me.

I think yoda said it best 'fear leads to anger, anger leads to hate, hate leads to suffering' If I live my life based on a fear of something I cannot feel or see, there will be suffering at my hand.

I don't know why I am so different, I have honestly felt exactly like this since as long as I can remember, when I had to go to church when I was little, I felt like I was in a bad place being taught to believe bad things, wrong things, not always, but very often so I took the things that proved themselves to be good and I left the bad behind.

Its very lonely, how you feel, more or less represents 98% of the people on earth, so where do I get off claiming that they are all wrong? I don't, that would be above my station but there is no way for me to force myself to believe what they believe any more than I can walk to mars. Its like nearly everyone in the world believes its flat when I can plainly see that it is round, they have so much that they can point to to prove that it is flat but everything that comes through my eyes is a round earth, I cant squint and make it look flat and what this excerpt tells me is that unless I lie and say, yep, she's flat alright, I'm going to burn for it. I don't mind burning, lying I cant do.

Don't know what to say, if its all true then we aren't going to the same place, the best I can come up with is, don't worry, I wont have any regrets.


Friday, November 19, 2004

The Heart-less land Hypocracy in action

I got this forward yesterday about how the conviction in the scott peterson case proves legal precedence for the reversal of roe v. wade. Then they go on to tie it all up with the argument that an 8 month pregnancy is no different than an 8min one when it comes to terminating it. I am an open minded person, arguments could be made, as always my contention is that people of faith that where the overwhelming deciding factor in electing this president should use their actions and faith to fight for what they believe, not the constitution. How would they like it if Boeing decided to use their church to assemble nuclear missiles?

So then I started thinking, thinking about the heart behind this, here I am angry and wishing there were some way I could offend born-agains as much as they offend me with 'praise the lord' bumper stickers, and then I start feeling like a dick and a hypocrite. First I am angry for people trampling on my right to have different beliefs, where do I get off wanting to play the same game? second and more importantly, my big sister is a born-again Christian, so I can't declare war on something when I don't believe in war and on something precious to someone I love.

Then it hit me: War is murder, unsafe cars are murder, environmental destruction is murder. So the republicans have really pulled a fast one, on well meaning people. George convinced them that he was a good god fearing Christian, a bald faced lie if you ask me, and got them to vote for them, with the promised land of overturning roe v. wade, a victory for their most sacred issue.

He has killed 100,000 Iraqis, 1200 US troops, the environment, and our future. In an unrelated story they just upped the national debt limit to 70% of the value of our entire economy, looks like we are chasing the USSR into the economic grave.

So, how do I fight this battle? still working on it, but my first thought is to go after the support of people of faith, rather than fight them. Why? because technically true Christians SHOULD be fanatical supporters of most of the issues I support, all I need is for them to compromise on abortion and stay the fuck out of gay marriage but on nearly every other issue they should be lined up right behind me. #1 they should be very vocal anti-war protestors, if they were as fanatical about that as abortion, we would have no military at all, think about it. Of course, they really can't support the death penalty, while I am conflicted on that one, the large number of Christian right pro-life pro-death pro-war hypocrites really chap my ass.

So, you want to be a good Christian? I say go for it! don't be half assed, help your neighbor, give to the poor and appose anything that leads to the death of humans, that's what Jesus would do, he would have voted for Kerry, yup Kerry. Kerry would have stopped the killing as fast as he could and gotten out of Iraq ASAP, he would have signed the Kyoto treaty and as a bonus, while he cant make laws against gay marriage or abortion because both are in the realm of faith, not government, he is one of you, and would support those issues on a personal level, what could be better? the leader of the free world on your side all the way around.

But you voted for Bush?

Guess you are not so Christian after all.

Tuesday, November 16, 2004

Somethings wrong with the world today

As if that was news to anyone who can keep their own saliva from running out of their mouth onto the floor. But really, its like what used to seem extreme, outlandish, even crazy has become such a majority mindset in so many cultures that anyone that dare question its validity is to be shunned if not killed. We were watching that wife swap show last night, a born again traded with a jewish woman, how they each felt about their differences was just shocking to me, the jewish woman felt very uncomfortable in the bible group meeting and I am sure that if either of the other couple had gone to temple they would have felt like a long tail cat in a room full of rocking chairs. But here I am, someone who doesn't believe in organized religion, having a hard time telling them apart, in fact, I had a philosophy teacher in college who was doing a quick overview of belief systems of the world and one of them he simply called JCI faiths short for Judao / Christian / Islamic - yes islamic too! the petty differences where not worthy of detailing in such a high level overview. They may be emotionally very important to people in those faiths, but overall they are all pretty much the same.

What is wrong with the world today is that not only is the emotional attachement to these differences among these groups so great that they have killed each other over it for thousands of years, but the most traditional interpretations of each faith preclude killing, they all defend their faiths which all include some form of thou shalt not kill, by, infact, killing each other in the process. On top of that, I get to pay for it! Whats really cute is how each is quick to point at the other as being totalitarian savages, Islamic fundamentalists kill 3000 inocent people in a horrific way using our own planes, Christain fundamentalists kill 100,000 + inocent 'brown' people using a straight laced and orderly military that is the property of the state. Lets face it, we just became the red coats, what because we shave our killing of civilians is just and dignified?

I'm not implying we shouldnt do something about the really bad people of the world, I am implying that we are using that as an excuse to use the resources of a freedom of religion founded country to basically fight a holy war, christians have found a way to kill islamic people without tarnishing their white gloves, if the real aim was to get rid of bin laden and saddam, we have the very best tools in the world for that. Just as an example, we have a 747 with a nose mounted laser system, one laser is a targeting mechanism the other is lethal, it can track a ICBM the B standing for bullistic or faster than the speed of sound, then when its safely away from the ground, cooks the thing down to nothing, harming no one. just how fast do you think saddam can run from his limo into his palace? and who would take his place? shit we could have loudspeakers saying in their native tounge "who would like to be next?"

So you might ask, why didnt we do that? 2 reasons we "dont assasinate people" its against our own laws to do it, we are however actually allowed to put out a contract and have the brits do it for us. right. but the real reason: just ask yourself how much Halliburton would stand to make of an operation like that? hmm, not so much, maybe they could supply lunch for the pilots. Plus then you have a country that still 'owns' itself and its oil, region is more stable instantly free trade becomes commonplace and damn it all to hell, oil prices drop, no, texas oil billionaire just cant have that either.

And the conservatives out there will see this as nothing but the rantings of a mad man, a mad man I tell you!

you people really scare me.

Maybe we need a new law, your IQ must be at least this high to vote, ah hell lets make it easier, must be this high to hold office. The mouth breather down at 7-11 has a higher IQ than monkey boy.

damn, really wanted to write an a-political blog today, still getting sucked in.

Well, I will finish with this, America has always defended itself against foreign and domestic threats to its foundation, just because you aren't going after our consitution with guns doesnt mean your not in for a fight, and as history serves, you will lose, bigtime.

Friday, November 12, 2004

Electoral College - Bad Math Meets the 21st Century

Man, That is a tough one. I guess I have always knee-jerk hated the electoral college system but one simple qwip made me see the wisdom in it 'True democracy is 2 wolves and a sheep voting on whats for dinner'. But now we have a larger problem, didn't that just happen? Not with the presidential election, That was electoral college all the way, the continental west coast and the north east couldn't overcome the heart(less)land. No, 2 wolves - straight christian fundamentalists and 1 sheep - Gays and the liberal pinko commies who support them got together and decided that it was sheep for dinner tonight.

So you are right, in some respects, we are far too large a nation for one person one vote, ask france to imagine a single european leader being elected that way, I think they would learn an American phrase very quickly 'um.....'

One small problem with the electoral college system, take a look at the map, this worked for the 13 colonies, they were all small, including Virginia, where I am stuck right now. I grew up in Alaska, 1/5th the size of the rest of the country 3 electoral votes, but the real problem is that overall as we moved west, states got larger. Add that to the capitol being out here and living out west makes you feel like, well, you don't really count in American governance, you just pay for it.

No easy solution, one state one vote? same problem, the east still runs the country. The only thing I can think of is to add geographic area as a third factor in the number of votes you get, that way perhaps Alaska and New York would have about the same vote.

How about more candidates? Lots more, I want 20 non-partisan choices in a primary thats open to everyone, 2 months of campaining for the top 5 choices, then an election and like the original consitution, #1 in votes is in the big chair #2 is the VP, can you imagine how much more dignified this election would have been if Kerry was now the VP instead of Cheney? Hell better you that one, #2 is the Chief of Staff and #3 is the VP. Now there is some unification. Play nice boys, you are going to work together no matter what, because, we say so, thats right, we the people, your boss!

(from: http://misercola.blogspot.com/2004/11/electoral-college.html)

Thursday, November 11, 2004

another comment to a conservative site

OtherBlog

Wow! that was awesome! I gave kudos to your fellow conservative blogger misercola for not being stupid like every Bush supporter I have met, but you really deserve the trophy, that was by far the best pro-bush anti-kerry argument I have ever heard, and believe me I have heard them all. My least favorite being 'we need a ranch hand' as if 1) we do need a ranch hand in the oval office and 2) Bush is even close to being anything that could be called a ranch hand.

Just for the record I am anti-partisan and as I told your fellow concervative blogger, I have bashed religious people, southern people, republicans in general out of shear rage because the arguments and policies put forth of late have not only spit on us 'other people' but have really trashed the constitution.

If most of Bush's people and supporters where as reasonable as you he would have won by a landslide, I still wouldn't trust the guy, but I would believe that he really got elected both times and figure that at least those who put him in office weren't freakishly brain dead morons.

Kerry pissed me off too, I don't beleive in organized religion for myself, I have no problem with anyone elses that does not enchorage hate. Both he and George said 'god bless america' constantly, which told me 'uh, dave, that don't mean you' but that is their personal belief, well, that is if you believe that they actually beleive what they say, and I have to say, George doesnt believe in god at all, he is like every other former coke snorter, drunk driver - cum - born-again, if I just say I do and say I am sorry and repent, I get to get out of jail free AND I get to lord over all the other people who are still 'sinners' sorry that stuff just chaps my ass.

So the democratic party has lost, nay, nuked its own rudder and the republican party has made a religious, personal, moral issue - gay marriage - not only a political and legal one but one that is more important than terrorism? I am furious over this one, seriously this is semantics at its finest, so people of faith want to bless the WORD 'marriage' as their own, to only be used by men and woman bound in 'holy matrimony' FINE but because of this zeal over this word, my gay brother can't marry someone who will stick by him through thick and thin, he cant have them make choices for him when he is in a coma, or even see him, he can't get health insurance and share it with him, what does that have to do with your god? Call it a 'legal union' or whatever but don't ram your church down their throats, thats what the brits did, remember? The truth is that what those concervatives really want is to outlaw being gay, hell, they want to outlaw not being a christian, those people need to get dropped out of your party wings like a hot potato in favor of more moderate people such as yourself or the flames will be visible from space, lets face it most of us, most americans when you get right down to it are in the middle of the extremes that each party keeps touting, thats dangerous, we need the people in the middle to demand a middle out of both parties, just today I answered a democratic support survey, asking basically 'where did we go wrong?' and I told them, lay the hell off the extreme stuff, the fringe issues need to be debated on the floor of the house but the electoral flag waving issues need to be just that, all about the core values of what it is to be an american, the common ground, not the ground of your 'base' as George called a room full of fat cats. Republicans need to do the same, tell their party, slow down tonto, I don't like gay people either but we can't go making laws about it, thats unamerican!



We have to find a common ground, people like you and me, we must, you dont have to agree with my views to agree that we are in trouble here, people on both sides are very very angry and its not getting better when you hear that Bush won ohio by like 130,000 votes but just one county has 90,000 more votes than voters. I really WANT to believe that he was actually elected, but I just can't with facts like that. Republicans need to call for an investigation, side by side with 'the rest of us nut jobs' so that they can validate their guy, to say we are just being sour grapes just sprays liquid hydrogen on an open flame.

Keep up the blogging, your side is in power now, executive, judicial, legislative so you are in the drivers seat, what you say and do is going to steer where we go for at least 4 more years, the more of you that are like you, the better!

post to a conservative blog

otherblog

Thank you. Seriously, thank you. First let me say that I am truely anti-partisan and have gone both ways as it were. As a teenager I felt that I was a republican because I strongly supported the Grahamn-Rudman-Hollings act. I voted for Clinton once, then against him, never cared about his sexcapades. I have a lot of information about both Bushs and know that their seats in office have harmed me personally and I believe harmed what America used to be. I don't LOVE Kerry, like most Americans, his #1 attribute was 'he is not bush and he could win'. I have accumulated evidence for myself over many, many years that lead me to my convictions about what just happened and why.

So why do I thank you? me, joe blow fiscally conservative, morally liberal, thank you, just plain old, proudly conservative? because you aren't stupid. I can already tell that thinking is not something you consider a snobish northeastern 'liberal' pursuit but rather something everyone should try once in awhile, particularly when voting. I bet you voted for George Bush, knowing in your heart of hearts that you did your best to take in all the facts and pick the best guy for the job.

The bashing you see out there, including from people like me comes from a simple truth, just as myself as an example, you are the first person I have ever, met, read, heard about who supported either Bush who didnt sound like like you had lived on a steady diet of lead paint and glue fumes your whole life. Really, not joking, the justifications I have heard just make me ill.

If everyone who voted for Bush were like you, I would sleep well at night, I would think, man, I don't trust this guy as far as I can throw a barge but either I am wrong, or my fellow thinking americans who voted for him will reign him in when I am proven right, either way, I am in good hands.

But the truth is that if everyone from wackjob activist liberals to thinking people like me who will always vote for the best person for the job, regardless of party, are right, we are all very fucked, because your fellow conservatives will simply plater that big grin on their face and say 'see? now THAT is resolve, he ran us all into a brick wall at mach one and didn't even blink! - yee haaa!'

really hope there are more of you.

comment I posted on someone elses blog

From: someotherblog

ConservativeTimes: You and people like you, millions of you need to know that it doesn't matter if you dont understand, if you think that anything anti-bush must be the rantings of a mad man. without even breaking a sweat, MORE than half the country doesnt just dislike your monkey boy, they think that he is a terrifying moron barely capable of tieing his own shoes and I dont mean that figurativly, I mean I would bet that the spoon fed rich boy life he has had from birth combined with strings pulled so he doesnt have to even try, topped off with cocain and dwi habits have dropped this 'mans' IQ down to less than 70. I cant believe I am saying this but this guy is actually dumber than Dan Quale, a feat that I thought was totally impossible.

and that just how dumb he is, lets skip evil altogether, this isnt my blog.

so if you simply said, gee I dunno, seems like an ok guy to me, then I would feel bad for you that you are uninformed but what shocks the fuck out of me is that every single solitary bush supporter I have ever met rationalizes their support of him with the same exact mindless crap that comes out of his mouth. Yesterday I gave one of them the example of the fact that the Bin Laden family and the Bush family are close friends, and business allies, even investing in duh-byas first oil company Arbusto (um planning on going bust?) and their only reply was that they had heard that but 'yea, but its not true, so that doesnt count!' why? because we say so? wtf??? there is this mentality that if it was really that bad surely 'THEY' would have done something about it, the list goes on for miles! Bush won ohio by what 130,000 votes? one county alone has 90,000 more votes than voters? this isnt horseshit made up by pot smoking deadbeats these are simple facts that the average 3rd grader should be able to grasp and understand.

all I ask is that you people get your head out of your collective ass (tha'd be duh-bya) and question some shit for once, if you dont believe us, check out the facts, source the shit yourself.

I have no problem saying that Kerry's anti-gay anti-abortion personal stance bothered me, that his god bless america statements pissed me off, I have no problem what-so-ever questioning his intentions, his background, his voting record, because I'm not is stuge puppet, I am an american, I dont believe in god, I support, gay marriage, freedom of choice and this just in... I think AND I vote, with all of Kerrys foibles, its still a no brainer, just like voting for the dead guy instead of ashcroft.

Tuesday, November 09, 2004

Questionation nation or gallup poll of ME

questions taken from Lance (lancearthur.com) who:

Questions taken from an interview with Mark Morris in the New York Times Sunday Magazine, altered accordingly.


Best household chore: Fixing something that is broken, sounds redundant, as in why would you fix something that is not broken, but ask any Tim Allen fan and you will get a surprising answer. So when something in our house doesnt work anymore, I usually get to fix it, cleaning is fun, for, well, odd people, at least they seem odd to me, people like my sister, they like cleaning, they're odd, because, well, I say so. ok? so how do I come up with 'best' and 'chore' thats like 'best' and 'presidential candidate' dont know if best really applies in either. I digress, so fixing something around the house on a saturday morning (still have work hours on the brain, rest of the house has stayed up to the wee hours and will be out cold for some time) so, bored, house needs cleaning and fixing, need to do my share, quick, fix something! didnt get to those damn dishes but man can the garbage disposal kick some ass now! bonus: requires power tools, cant help it, there is still some real guy left under this taste for decorating sensitive 90s guy exterior. worst chore: fix someones computer, very satisfying if I actually do, but TRYING to do so and never getting there, that just blows especially come monday morning when I get to go to work and do more of the same, well sort of.

Fantasy career: wow, thats a tough one, I guess my top 2 still remain, ski instructor - something I did for 4 years in highschool, awesome job, very challenging, rewarding, fantastic perks, but pay scale that not even a burger flipper would envy and second place still holding strong, chief buyer for williams sonoma. Tried to hack my way into working for the chief buyer there when I lived in the bay area long ago, found that the only entrance to the company was one that I could have only afforded to do when I was 18, so I gave up on that dream and became a computer geek, probably my 3rd fantasy career, something I can do in my sleep, yet requires constant learning and allows me to eat without magically coming up with $200,000 to get a worthless degree. Scratch all that, secretly, I really just want to be a mad scientist, thats the job for me, scary fucked up hair, no stupid people and at the end of the rainbow I solve cold fusion and retire to barbados, er, or iceland, whichever my lovely and infinitely patient wife would prefer, after all the solution would likely end up coming from her anyway, in some idle passing of my work where she asks 'if its acting like that all the time, why not reverse the polarity?' - DOH!!!

Favorite place to shop: Home Depot, WAIT! now I am sure that this answer combined with the fixing things around the house answer really has the wrong image, trust me, I spend as much if not more time in Home Depot vexing over the different shades of yellow offered by Ralph Lauren and oogling the plantlife as I do looking at power tools, but really the reason I like to 'shop' there is that it is a wonderful trip down fantasy lane that lets me periodically dream about what it would be like to own a home, oh the things I would do...

however, if by 'shop' you mean 'actually buy' well that changes sharply, online of course, unless, naturally, there is anyway in hell I can have it now now now! otherwise, nearly everything I have was found online, car, house, wife, doctors, financial solutions, furniture etc.... wait! again stop jumping to conclusions now! I didnt go 'shopping' for a wife, nor did I troll the chat rooms, it just happened, by sheer pressure of Chaos theory and I happend to be online at the time. Yard sales, thrift shops and the online/offline reality of craigslist, should not be overlooked either.

It used to be so simple, 10 years ago, a much much shorter answer: Nordstrom, last I checked, they dont sell diapers or $20 work shoes.

Superstitions: Too much of a scientist, all superstitions are either false or scientifically proveable. I practice Reiki, which basically comes down to the analogy of jump starting a car so to speak, only the good battery is the life energy of the known universe and the bad battery is the living thing that doesnt feel so good and the jumper cables, well tha'd be me. For me there is no cosmic woo woo in it, just something that todays scientists couldnt possibly come up with the math to prove, that doesnt make it unreal any more than the earth is flat just because you cant see it from space. Psychic astrology, now heres one were I find it entertaining, may very well be proveable, yet, I really dont care, if you could fortel the future, then why would I rent the movie? how annoying is that? its like life stuck on fast forward, drives me nuts when people just want to find out how it turns out and in the process try to skip how it got there, why be born if someone can tell you that in your 39th year you will marry a herring named chester.

Morning routine: smooth jazz blaring, snooze. smooth jazz blaring, snooze. Fear of smooth jazz blaring, turn off alarm. sleep. wake up. Turn on shower, pee, weigh myself, blow my nose, sneeze or both. Stand in the shower for 5 min half asleep, not moving. Wash hair, rinse. Wash face with some Dr. Bronners eucalpytus or pepperment, rinse. awake now. wash various pits again, Dr. B. Rinse. stand, 3/4 awake 2min. turn the shower off. dry off. clean ears. cough, spit, sneeze, blow nose. brush teeth - braun oral b electric. Rinse, splash water on face, shave, - no cream - gillette sensor - no excel, doest work, doesnt last as long, costs more. weed wacking with eyebrow/nose hair trimmer. Pitt stick - mennen green clear stuff - no anti perspiriant, cant stand how it feels, doesnt work anyway. gel hair, fuss with hair, rinse hands, dry off, cologne cant remember the name smells woodsy, makes my wife smile, what more should it do?

iron. hate ironing, iron front of shirt and sleeves, put it on, iron slacks, put them on, wait, first draws, fairly easy then socks, dark, impossible to find match, takes forever, fucks up my whole day, yea, then ironing, which I hate. glasses, watch, kiss wifes ankle, think of patting wee one on the back, dont want to wake him, just look at him and smile, day is looking better.

downstairs, idle chat with not so wee one, shoes on, keys, wallet, cell phone, coat, errand junk (movie, bill, check, large wooden badger) 'have a good day at school' I say 'try to have a good day at work he says' 'bye' - 'bye'

car, cold start, annoying. look 12 times for short people behind me, start rolling. look at all the people out with their wee ones at the bus stops. Turn on radio, flip channels, try to act interested in public radio, switch to pearl jam cd. switch back to radio, flip channels, get lost in thought, and in traffic, sit. wait. roll. wait. roll. dream of living back in SF, taking bart to work or riding a bike (never did either, sat in traffic just like now, fantasy over) 50/50 stop at 7-11 get a twister roll with sausage, egg and cheese and decaf coffee or go straight to work, nuke water for tea, eat a breakfast bar or pop-tart.

think about working.

Evening routine:
As if, there's and oxymoron in our house. I guess its common for me to go grocery shopping, almost every evening, we live close to a good store so stopping on the way our going back out is easy. Then there is the sifting through the junkmail and bills and nastygrams, getting jamied and comfortable, trying to make something for dinner, often a team effort, eat way too late, then watch the obligitory television, cant resist scrubs, apprentice, biggest loser, and west wing, only been doing that kind of thing lately though. however, one thing is very routine, one of my favorite moments and I get one every day. I get on the other side of the gate in the kitchen and start making requests, soon fullfilled for my now almost 22 month old adorable boy, to grab his blue or yellow banky and come to the gate. Without prompting he hands me the banky, then puts his arms up, as I pick him up, with or without request, he kicks - so as to assist in the lifting as if he was swimming. then at his new altitude - 6 and a half feet, he gets kisses all around from the rest of the house, big brother, mommy, sometimes mahoot the cat. Then up the stairs and out like a light for both of us.

Favorite memento:

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Best thing about being you:

What’s your reputation:

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Tuesday, October 26, 2004

I see stupid people

I tried this next blog button a few times and came across a nice all american pro-bush site. so utterly typical of a republican, the guys says he is a millionaire according to Kerry because Kerry said that Bush ONLY gave tax cuts to people who made more than 1.2 million and since this guy got $600 last year he must be a millionaire.

so fucking stupid.

on so, many levels.

first, he didnt say that, jackass
second, if he did, per chance, by slip of the tounge, what, are you fucking 8 years old?
I bet you were one of those worthless numbnuts dipshit assholes on the play ground that would splash water on someone then point and tell everyone they peed your pants. pretty damn unacceptable then but now its dangerous, millions of uninformed anti-thinkers such as yourself are trying to re-elect Hitler and if you would take your head out of your ass for one lousy second and look anywhere about anything to do with this president you would find in every corner of the world hard real evidence that this guy is an evil schmuck and a puppet.

helloooo? I feel like I am taking crazy pills here, its like fucking charles manson is running for office and everyone is saying, oh, who cares about all that bygone stuff, look he's down to earth, isnt that nice?

down to earth my ass, overgrown spoiled brat who was installed in office, not elected, by breaking so many laws its not possible to keep track of all of them.

uh, we luv dubya, hu hu hu, k'mer bevis lets cast our vote, um hu he he he, you said cast.....

I cant believe I have to share oxygen with these people.

hopeless. just hopeless

What's in a week?

Next week a few Americans will drag their sorry asses down the the local elementary school or fire hall to 'cast their vote'. Many studies have shown that those drastically less knowledgeable or even outright wrong will be voting for dubya. We as a nation aren't very good on the facts, our education system falls way behind lessor industrialized nations and we have the lowest voter turn-out in the free world. I myself didnt register in time and therefore missed the opportunity to excercise my freedom in the 2000 election, when I could have had my vote proudly pissed on by the supreme court who, in fact, never had any legal right to call the election. But I digress.

So the big question on everyones mind is: whats going to happen?
my answer: in one way it doesn't even matter, why? because this time more so than ever before there is not a feeling of 'may the best man win' but most of us think that half of us are morons. The hard truth is that since we are so horribly divided, it is impossible to change someones mind. I heard one Bush supporter the other day say that 'what we need is a ranch hand in the oval office' clearly Fox news channel combined with the presidents inability to speak english (said so himself) have convinced an otherwise thoughtful person that he is in fact, a down to earth, simple Texas cowboy and not even a rancher, but a ranch hand. Amazing. Born into a life of wealth and priviledge, strings pulled his whole life, even went so metropolitan as to build a fake oil company that lost tons of money (very much like how he is running the country now - into the ground) AND did coke, got DWIs dodged his duty which afforded him the ability to dodge the draft (I only disrespect the underhanded nature of this, had he disowned his father and fled to canada I might think better of him)

So when its all over and one guy sits in the chair, it is likely that half the country will think that the guy in that chair was not elected and should not have been even if he was, which is no different than last time, except 'fool me once...' if GW is made dictator a second time, there will be backlash that will shake things to the ground, hurt the economy and forever lose the last thread of respect citizens have for their governance, on the other hand if Kerry makes it, the republicans will procede to finish off whats left of our civil liberties, shred the constitution and walk away laughing all the way to the bank with their childrens future in ruins.

If, however 12 years from now we find ourselves considering John Edwards for re-election after 2 terms and vp and one in the big chair, there might then be a ray of hope that we will ever again be what we once were.

At least I can still write this without the FBI pounding down my door, don't laugh, its already happening to some people, not in Afganistan but right here in America.

which reminds me of one of my favorite bumper stickers: If you don't like separation of church and state, join the Taliban.